Monthly Archives: July 2014

The Marriage School

Are you married? If Yes, welcome to the school called marriage:
A school where you will never graduate.
A school without a break or a free period.
A school where no one is supposed to drop out.
A school, which you will attend every day of your life.
A school where there is no sick leave or holidays.
A school founded by God,
on the foundation of Love.

The walls are made out of trust.
The door is made out of acceptance.
The windows are made out understanding.
The furniture is made out of blessings.
The roof is made out of faith.

Before you forget,
You are just a student not the principal.
Christ is the principal.
Even in times of storms,
Don’t be unwise and run outside.
Remember this school is the safest place to be.

Never go to sleep,
Before completing your assignments for the day.
Never forget the C-word, Communicate.
Communicate with your classmate,
And also communicate with the Principal.

If you find out something in your classmate
That you do not appreciate,
Remember your classmate is also just a student,
Not a graduate.
God is not finished with her/him yet.
So take it as a challenge and work on it together.

Do not forget to study,
Never read your Bible (the main textbook),
But study it.
Start each day with a sacred assembly,
And end it the same way.

Sometimes you will feel like not attending classes,
Yet you have to.
When tempted to quit,
Find courage in the Lord to continue.

Some tests and exams may be tough,
Remember the Principal knows how much you can bear.
But still, it is a school better than any other.
It is one of the best schools on earth.
Joy, peace and happiness accompany each lessons of the day.

Different subjects are offered in this school,
Yet love is the major subject.
After all the years of theorizing about it,
Now you have a chance to practice it.

To be loved is a good thing,
But to love is a greatest privilege of them all.
Marriage is a place of love,
So love your spouse.

When tempted to raise your voice,
Let Love hold your mouth.
Let Love overthrow pride and selfishness,
And let Love reign in your house.

Do not hold back any Love.
But go all the way.
Love as though that’s your only hope for your survival,
And it is.

My friend, listen to the voice of experience.

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Posted by on July 25, 2014 in Uncategorized


The King and His 4 Wives

There once was a king who had four wives.
He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with beautiful gifts, jewelry and expensive clothes. He gave her nothing but the best.

He also loved the 3rd wife very much and enjoyed showing her off to neighboring kingdoms.
However, he was afraid that one day she would leave him for another king.

He also loved his 2nd wife.
She was his confidant and was always kind, considerate and patient with him. Whenever the king had a problem, he would confide in her and she would help him get through difficult times.

The 1st wife was a very loyal partner and did everything in her power to maintain his wealth and kingdom.
However, he did not love the 1st wife. Although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her.

One day, the King fell ill and he knew his end was near.
He thought about his luxurious life and wondered:

– Now I have 4 wives with me, but when I die, how many will go with me?

So he asked the 4th wife:
– I have loved you the most, my dear. I have endowed you with the finest clothing and jewelry. I have taken good care of you. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?

– No way! – replied the 4th wife, as she left the room without looking back.

Her answer cut like a sharp knife right through his heart.
The sad king then asked the 3rd wife:

– I have loved you all my life. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?
– No!!! – replied the 3rd wife. Life is too good! When you die, I’m going to get remarried.

His heart sank and turned cold from hearing such painful words.
He then asked the 2nd wife:

– I have always turned to you for help and you’ve always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?

– I’m sorry, but I can’t help you out this time – replied the 2nd wife. The most I can do is bury you!

Her answer struck him like a bolt of lightning and once again, the king was devastated.

Then a voice called out:
– I’ll go with you. I will follow you wherever you go…
The king looked up and there was his 1st wife. She was very thin, malnourished, and suffering from neglect…

Greatly grieved, the King said:
– I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance…

In truth, we all have these 4 wives in our lives…

Our 4th wife is our body.
No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it healthy and beautiful, it will leave us when we die.

Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth.
When we die, it will all go to others.

Our 2nd wife is our family and friends.
No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest they can stay by our side is up to the grave.

And our 1st wife is our Soul.
It is often neglected in the pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures to fulfill our Ego.
However, our Soul is the only thing that will follow us wherever we go, no matter where it is…

Cherish your soul!

It is the greatest gift we can give those around us and ourselves.
Let it shine through the forgiveness that God gives us in the Lord Jesus!

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Posted by on July 25, 2014 in Uncategorized


IntelliMen Project™ _ The father I didn’t know

In all aspects and in every way, I loved my father Vivian Lingiwe Chabarwa. ‘Zimanimoto’, so they used to call him, a name that comes from the Malawian language meaning ‘put out the fire’. Was it because of his hot hunky looks? I don’t know. Surely, he must have been a man on fire during his days to adopt such a nickname, or perhaps it was the flames from his welding machine and his welding skills, that earned him a place among the top 5 welders in the country. I will always respect him for the man who he was, a true family man.

In the early hours of a warm June Saturday morning back in 1993, he sadly departed to eternity.

I was only 14 years old when my dad passed away and I did not really understand about the death experience, how the loss of a loved one impacts and affects those close to them. Much less did I know my father that much to have a deep personal father-son relationship. I was just a young boy then.

Believe me, my dad did his best to raise us well, together with my other 5 siblings, one of which sadly is now late. Not only did he provide for our needs, there were also spanks and beatings at times when I crossed the line, all in an attempt to make me a better man. Did it help? In a way and up to a certain level, yes. Sometimes a rod just isn’t enough. Lol, just remember my father literally had a rod, he called it ‘Nhunzi Nhema, Nyamutemerakuodza’ meaning ‘ The black fly’. Unfortunately somehow i kind of got immune to the stings. Well, the rod wasn’t spared and the child was still spoilt. Sometimes a rod just is enough. I needed a staff, I needed guidance.

Cutting to the chase, the IntelliMen Project has been to me like that “Proverbial Father”, who sits down with his son and explores every bit and aspect of this life, then instructs him on way he should go. Training. This is something that I didn’t get from my dad, probably with time the moment would have come, but it didn’t.

In a world filled with so much chaos and confusion guidance is truly a gem and an asset, and this is what I have found in through the IntelliMen Project. I can proclaim and indeed say, I have become a better man.

Want to know more about the IntelliMen Project? Please check out the this link: or follow @IntellimenWorld on Twitter.

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Posted by on July 25, 2014 in Uncategorized


Be Careful


Be careful with your thoughts because they become words;

Be careful with your words because they become actions;

Be careful with your actions because they become habits;

Be careful with your habits because they become your character;

Be careful with your character because it becomes your destiny.

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Posted by on July 12, 2014 in Uncategorized


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